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Mike Yochim's avatar

Steven, after reading your words I can see how the “other side” might feel. I personally don’t sit ideally by. My fear is palpable but the greater my fear the more angry I get and the more I engage. I comment, and share posts from other people. I also share appropriate news stories. I certainly will vote. I’m uncertain about the primary. I live in New Hampshire and am an independent. As an independent I can vote in either the Democrat primary or the Republican primary. Part of me wants to vote for President Biden as a write in since he isn’t running in it. I want to send a message of support for him. On the other hand, I am thinking of voting for Haley just to try and boost her numbers against DeSantis and you know who.

Finally, I have tried engaging with the “other side”. After the Lewiston mass shooting through facebook I tried discussing gun control. I was extremely courteous and did not devolve into name calling. I offered the idea that if it is a mental health issue, wouldn’t background checks and red flag laws help keep people with issues from getting weapons. Steven, I was vilified and verbally assaulted. Not one person was willing to engage in a civil conversation. I gave up, told them off and left the conversation.

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Paul M Sotkiewicz's avatar

Steven, fear of change is really a fear of loss. That loss could be a losing the understanding of the ever growing complexities in then world. That loss could be the loss of perceived hierarchy (hence the xenophobia and racism). With so much uncertainty in the world the loss of certainty in their minds about the world and how it works.

It is not just fear of perceived loss. It is the cognitive dissonance in so many minds that they thought they understood the world, but really never did and it is simply too painful to confront oneself with the realization that we never understood the underlying complexity of the world we live in. The coping mechanism of this are conspiracy theories, “knowingness” or as Tom Nichols has coined “The Death of Expertise.”

What is the antidote? Data and facts do not matter or move the needle. But we need to find a narrative story, based in those facts, that resonates with those who fear loss and fear their lack of knowledge and fear uncertainty. I do not know what that narrative is, but demonizing people will not help either. Find progress that they can see and have experienced. That the alternative will take that away (it will). But it is not a one size fits all story.

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