Years ago I was shown a personal letter written by Patti Davis, the daughter of Ronald and Nancy Reagan. She wrote about how whenever she was around her mother, she felt like she had to walk on “eggshells.” Over the years, she shared in writings like her 1993 memoir The Way I See It that the Reagan household was a “tense” battlefield, that her mother was “abusive” and her father was “distant.” She always felt unappreciated, criticized, unnecessary in the life of her parents whose bond with each other was primary. “They were complete unto themselves,” she once said, although in the latter years when her father’s Alzheimer’s worsened, she became more forgiving with both of her parents.
Her story has been on my mind since news broke Thursday that Hunter Biden has been indicted on nine charges involving tax evasion (taxes which he has since paid) dating from 2016 to 2019 when he was dealing with drug addiction. This follows the collapse of a plea deal during the summer. Although it seems clear that the scale of the charges result more from his family name than the seriousness of his infractions, it’s not his legal issues that particularly interest me. Rather, it’s his emotional relationship with his father.
When Joe Biden was vice president, he confronted his son over his addiction and his need for rehab. “Dad saved me,” Hunter wrote in his memoir.. “He never let me forget that all was not lost. He never abandoned me, never shunned me, never judged me, no matter how bad things got.”
In the weeks before Joe Biden announced his presidential campaign, he and other family members sought to perform an intervention when Hunter came to a dinner. When Hunter angrily departed, his father chased after him. “He grabbed me, swung me around, and hugged me,” he wrote. “He held me tight in the dark and cried for the longest time.”
While in rehab, his father reportedly texted Hunter this: “Good morning my beautiful son. I miss you and love you.” It was part of a package of contacts between father and son used by Republicans determined to cast doubt on the closeness of their relationship and possible business dealings. But what it revealed to many (including me) was a father’s unconditional love.
When then-candidate Biden was attacked by his opponent for his son’s “cocaine use” during the first presidential debate in 2020, Biden responded, “I’m proud of him. I’m proud of my son.”
There once was a time when such personal family matters involving high-profile political figures would not see the light of day. But in today’s more exposed media environment, such details are part of the public package. In this case, they tell me about the depth of compassion of the man who holds the nation’s highest office.
How important is compassion in politicians? Do you think it makes a difference when conducting their professional responsibilities and deciding on policy? Would the absence of compassion influence your voting choices?
It’s interesting to note that, in 2018, after the deadly mass shooting in the Tree of Life synagogue in Pittsburgh, Patti Davis wrote an op-ed about the heartlessness of the 45th president at a time when the nation needed consolation. “This president will never offer comfort, compassion or empathy to a grieving nation,” she wrote. “It’s not in him.”
As always, I look forward to reading your thoughts and observations—and the opportunity for this community to learn from each other. Please do be respectful in your comments.
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*Photo: President Biden embracing his son Hunter at his 2021 inauguration. (Photo by Brendan Smialowski/AFP via Getty Images)
Compassion is critical in our leaders - and in all of us - if we are to live successfully in society. More, it’s an indicator of high intelligence, because it’s transcends judgment. President Biden demonstrates this daily.
Clearly and totally agree. Biden is, above all else, a very decent man. However, a lot of time, he talks policy. Of course, appropriate. But my question - just that -- do you think Biden (the very polished DC deal maker) connects with people when he gives addresses to the nation? His state of the union talk was masterful display of dealing with errant politics. And maybe the comparison isn't fair. But Clinton, and Reagan, for all their faults, seemed to connect with average people when they gave national addresses. Obama of course did. Is Biden maybe too much of a techno-crat? DC insider? Just asking since I think he should be more popular, notwithstanding the daily onslaught of insults about his age, physical capacity, and mental acuity.
I’ll preface this by saying first that he is by inclination a politician imo. Inclined to be, intended to be, was. He’s grown though more into someone with a deeper perception of what the role of a leader in government can be and has moved toward it - that being someone who has a capacity for grasping nuances and acting on them to raise as many up as he can through policy. He needn’t be as charismatic as Obama (few are capable I think) or even Clinton, who like it or not had the focus and the charm to hold an audience. I never could stand the aw shucks bullshit of Reagan but I get what you mean.
Biden has grown as a human being and into some serious stature as a leader. Saying I find him someone who looks at situations and sees down into the human beings affected I don’t think is bring disingenuous. I’m not blinded by idolatry of anyone. He sees soldiers, for instance, through the lens of a loss so deep he see them as to be treasured as children of the nation. He sees families and attempted to continue supporting them through child credits. He see the outsiders and knows who they are because his son was so nearly lost to him by addiction.
But he’s also charged with keeping our national interests in mind in decision making. Not because he is depraved but he sees through a wider lens. His/our choice to support Israel and Ukraine despite fallout on civilians in Gaza, for instance, must be predicated on support of what is our literal base of operations in the region, Israel, the stated goal of Hamas to continue their attempts to eliminate our friends and allies, Israel (as opposed to Netanyahu).
As I see it this way he’s our only hope right now. Maybe someday we will be intelligent enough to support someone like Buttigieg, but that’s going to take a while. I think if Biden interacts within the small town in red states he can transcend the issues of age.
So eloquent Patris. And so well-said. As he says, "don't compare me to the all-mighty. compare me to the alternative." . . . It's an impossible job. Strengths in some areas perceived as weaknesses in other areas . . . . Separately, I wish there would be some push back, on humanistic grounds, of the daily onslaught of personal / unjustified attacks. Respect for leaders -- when deserved -- should go with the office. Cruel, dehumanizing gratuitous, personal attacks, is a product of the mid-east (Hamas, Isis). Complete and utter lack of respect for human beings is a product of terrorist groups. But in America? By people whose lives are so fulfilled in so many ways? Why are these people so hard-wired to hate? Just once, maybe x-mas eve, it would be nice to hear people, surrounded by beauty, wealth, abundance, give thanks for those trying to make the world a better place.
Patris you’ve so eloquently stated what I think so many of us feel about this man we call our president you have just articulated it so well. Thank you.
Of the many comments in this thread, yours rings the most true. Joe Biden is, first and foremost, a human being with flaws like all of us. As a political leader, he has learned how to balance his humanity with the realities of our society. Unfortunately, there are those in our society that see empathy and compassion as weaknesses. But, without those human qualities, we would have destroyed ourselves long ago.
Thank you, Patris, for voicing what my heart feels so deeply. You seem able to hear my inmost thoughts and express them in a way that is profoundly true. Thank you, not only for myself, but for your unflagging belief in our President. You comfort me when I feel crushed by the negativity, and when I can't find the words to say Why I believe in Joe and his integrity so deeply. Your compassion is obviously matched by his own, else you wouldn't be able to see and describe it so very well. Thank you. <3
You can measure a man by the company he keeps. In this case Israel under Netanyahu. "...despite fallout on civilians in Gaza...", you tacitly approve of Biden's support of this genocide, the "fallout" of which is the entirely intentional slaughter of 10s of 1000s of innocent Palestinians.
We just sent thousands of tank rounds to the IDF. We intend to send them an additional $14.5B in military aid, as if they needed it to carry out Netanyahu's pogrom to destroy Gaza and its dehumanized people, including 7000+ children. all in the name of maintaining "our literal base of operations in the region".
It's all very moving I suppose, a father's compassion for his son. But let's be clear that Biden's good-guy compassion does not extend to the Palestinians. Apparently, their deaths are justified, even required, in our "national interest" – not a small part of which is perpetuating our vast production of military hardware for sale to the world. Gaza is a genocide and Biden is deeply complicit.
Israel has its conscience to deal with but also a duty to remove the gun from the hands of Hamas pointed at its innocent citizens.im not talking legitimate grievances against ultra orthodox outliers who are robbing Palestinians of their homes or the corrupt criminal I consider Netanyahu to be.
Will Hamas come out and either surrender or fight without hiding behind innocent human shields? Return hostages whose only sin is being innocent human targets of bullets and tape?
We are providing Israel’s defense forces with materials to not only fight for its survival against Hamas - they are ready to stand against Russian inspired forces from half a dozen surrounding countries threatening them. This is a policy decision supplying a steadfast ally.
What ever else may be true, Israel is not fighting against Hamas for its "survival". Hamas has no chance against the overwhelming power of Israeli planes, bombs, missiles, tanks, drones, artillery & navy. No, it's using its power to finally rid itself of the people it has colonized and brutalized for 50 years. This no longer a defensive war, it is deadly collective punishment without mercy of Palestinian "vermin", "two-legged animals".
I’ll defer further opinion except to say Israel didn’t go to Palestine (they are ethnically the same people btw) to throw anyone out but to seek refuge.
No. It’s because Joe has this huge psychotic gorilla always 10 feet away that takes all the attention. Biden behaves in a remarkably honorable and effective way. He is getting things done. He WOULD be noticed and noticed well if not for the psychotic gorilla.
Unfortunately, Trump learned at a very early age at the squeaky wheel gets the grease--since he wanted all the grease, he's determined to be the squeakiest wheel of all! 🙄
I believe he does break free of being a “techno-crat” many times. Every time there is a national tragedy, a mass shooting or devastating fire, he goes and meets with the people of the community. He meets with the families in private. When did TFG ever do that? When he walked the picket line with the strikers, when loudly and forcefully spoke in support of Israel after October 7. He is also restrained in attacks on himself and son by deranged individuals.
No, this man connects with people, on a one on one human level.
Vicki, you could not be more wrong. If you are not seeing Biden's compassion, you are not paying attention. If your comment was directed at Patris' comment about his intelligence, you are also not paying attention. He has directed the most significant administration, of either party, in decades.
I have been paying attention to him for decades. Bewildered by your comments but I don't have time to change your mind, nor do I want to. He has done nothing but further us toward oblivion as a strong and majestic nation. A leader of the free world...going going g.......
How exactly is compassion for a troubled child (apart from any other sense of compassion) sending us to oblivion? What exactly has the "focus" on his family done to affect the fate of the country? Is compassion in such limited supply that having it for a child takes up all available energy to do one's job?
You DO have to "list the ways" if you want anyone to pay any attention at all to your opinion.
I know she won't get it. Anyone who feels horror at white male persecution in this country will never get it. But I do try to instill a sliver of doubt in trolls before blocking them. If they DO respond as I ask, I find their warped reasoning fascinating. But they rarely do. Just continue mindless bloviation.
Vicki you are on the wrong Substack. Respectfully, it is shocking you can’t acknowledge that Joe demonstrates compassion publicly almost daily for Ukrainians (which is my heritage), the poor and disadvantaged (from which I emerged), women and minorities who are discriminated against hourly and daily, the undereducated, rural folks who need better infrastructure, and on and on! The contrast with his opponent is indisputable.
That is your opinion only as mine is. I am shocked you could even think much good about this administration which has us well on the way to oblivion. The discrimination saga is now aimed at White men (who by the way, have pretty much built this country with the constitution,etc.,) and schools are everywhere and generally close or reachable by bus. Get up, get dressed, show up and apply your brains. It's free. The opponent had our country on it's way to being an independent, strong and viable nation unless you listen to corporate run media (newspapers, magazines, TV, radio, etc.) who no longer believe in equal and actual news, not opinions and spew hate and many many things taken out of context. I thought Obama was playing a joke on us when he appointed biden for his VP as his rep in DC is less than stellar. Bleeding heart liberals have bought this garbage when it is plain to see that we are in dire straits. I don't have to list the ways, they are apparent. Normal people are afraid for their lives and don't go out at night, to theatres or to events for fear of the criminal element running wild. (Macy's stabbing in Philadelphia). But enough...you are not paying attention to reality. Good luck.
Your hateful ignorance and poor manners are here for all to see. Especially men like you who put down women. "When people show you who they are"...thank you Maya.
“Bleeding heart liberals”?? They have actually brought us most if not all the advances in medical research, engineering and technology. You live in a world here (despite your prejudice), of human beings devoted to the constitution and the rule of law. Flawed but at least resisting being dipped into narrow paths of bigotry and resentment at any thought not devoted to the ascendancy of one particular race or religion. I fear for those who appear blind to the greatness of this country of ours - which I say as a descendant of immigrants. You fear shadows.
Responses like the above are not based on fact. Amazing, people write this fiction for people to read. Intelligent people go to work and their children attend school. People who are unhappy with their own life need to get help and let the rest of us enjoy our lives.
Oh! What you're rabbiting on about, Vicki, is that White Dude don't get ENOUGH consideration? And that we need MORE bigotry, not less, because all your "negative" examples are about minorities, I can't help but notice....
I'd say 600 years at the top of the Western Heap, and 300 years at the top of the Global Heap, is enough "consideration" for anybody—and that maybe now, it's time to learn if Straight White Males ever learned how to share.
I doubt it will change YOUR mind because you're already locked into your White Supremacist Mindset, but for everybody else? Here's a piece popular SF author/social critic John Scalzi wrote years ago on his "Whatever" Blog about Straight White Men in videogame terms:
White Supremacist, lol, keep watching CNN...you make me laugh and sigh at the same time. White Males did what to you? Let us see your photo so we can judge...isn't that just all silliness? There is no bigotry in facts, get out your Civics books and read American History. Oh, right, they don't teach that anymore because they are more worried about your pronoun and gender ID. Oh, dear.
Wow, you are a wild one aren't you? Talk about exaggeration. They all helped and native people are doing just fine with casinos and just like everyone in the nation; some people are poor and some are rich and most or many are in between. Get a grip.
Wish I could. Still can’t imagine this isn’t a strategic goal at some point if not already. Watching Ukraine fight for their lives with such ferocity is incredible, isn’t it.
Compassion, empathy, love and respect are all important qualities for each of us and especially for the leader of our Nation. President Biden has them all.
It's so important in anyone, anywhere. The news about the latest affront by whomever on Hunter Biden knocked the pegs out from under me. I'm still enraged, it's as if they know that what they are doing will hurt Joe Biden more than anything else could. I see no humanity in their action only petty violence against it. It was the last straw for me. I've tried desperately to say "oh well this to will pass" but I'm so done with them. There is no compassion in the people who run the Republican Party or in the person who's decision it was to take this road, none. I have voted in every election since I was 21, that 58 years, but I would not vote for a Republican if it were my only choice, not ever.
I have never voted Republican, and certainly never will at this point. The party has become one of hatred and fear.
The Biden Administration has tried - and succeeded - at doing things that benefit our nation. A Republican Party Administration, under Trump specifically, will do everything it can to hurt the majority of our citizenry.
It is hugely important for all politicians, from the School Board up to the Presidency. These people are elected to whatever office to serve the people in whatever level district they represent. How can they serve people if they don't care about them?
Hi Dawn! I completely agree with you. But I have a question I hope you can help me with...when the hardline 🤡 crew come in and ban books, ban history, ban lgbtq rights, shut down nat'l & state programs, they don't use the terms or phrases "we hate", it's always approached as we care for children & future generations. Although these lies are wrapped in a disintegrating bow of fake compassion, it's often the people who need the benefits the most who get hurt.
How do we convince them that the compassion they're "recieving" isn't real before they suffer even more at the hands of selfish individuals who only care for themselves?
Hi GL. You have a good handle on this part of the problem. If I may jump in on your question to Dawn?
It is next to impossible. The grateful receivers of republican "help" and lies usually have turned from 'receivers' into 'believers.' Too much effort required to turn them with eleven months to go.
We must instead reach Dems and Independents who haven't voted lately, with postcards and phone banking from voter lists, canvassing, and demonstrating. Many excellent organizations to choose from who will train and equip you. I suggest Field Team 6, Indivisible, Seniors Taking Action. Proven results from each of these organizations and so many others. Many groups are actively registering new voters, and many are working the rich ground of millions of our beautiful brand new 18+ year-olds who respond to climate, women's rights, and gun control issues.
Take your pick and dive in! We'll work around the believing receivers and full-on cult members and white nationalist 'Christians.' They are still the minority of voters, and fully vaccinated against truth.
Put on the blinders and don't be distracted or depressed by side issues like independent candidates, or clowns in congress, or the "supreme" court, or the media!
Run full steam ahead on the White House and congressional majorities we CAN achieve--if everyone GETS BUSY. NOW.
Thanks for letting me butt in. Good luck and Godspeed to us all....
Your suggestions are invaluable, Gus! I’m glad that you did “butt in”, because it’s important to get more blue voters working together at this critical time. The holidays may put that on hold for a few weeks, but encouraging people to do what they can from January until November can make the difference. It will be extraordinarily important because then it will only be 10 months until the November 5th election.
Hello There Gus! It's definitely easy to get in your own head & try to make sense of things, especially when you're the only one in the family who hasn't gone down the "right" trail. Thank you for sharing these options, there are a few in here I recognize!
I see all that banning stuff differently. The “banners” say they care about kids, future, etc, but 1) they only care about kids that are like theirs (and I wonder how it’s going to go when some of their kids come out gay, for instance), 2) and they want the future to look a lot like the past.
Have you noticed that not many of those “banners” are people of color, for instance? The banners have the goal of marginalizing and “other-ing” everyone who doesn’t fit their mold. I think the people who are gratefully receiving the banning are much like the banners - everyone else, not so much. They see that it is about exerting control and and trying to turn us backwards in time.
Yes, I have noticed that. Last weekend, the committee that runs the State of Texas GOP essentially said we're totally cool with White Supremacist's, they voted on it. The members on the committee were ok voting on it, but some didn't want it public...fools. The Texas Tribune wrote about it.
Thank You for helping me see where I was getting caught up in the 🤡 crew's compassion games.
Compassion is absolutely necessary - otherwise what we get is a sociopathic destroyer. And, contrary to the belief of many ignorant people, sociopaths are not better than compassionate people at managing the economy, foreign relations, border security, or anything else for that matter.
Compassion is not a weakness. It takes more strength to stand up for individuals that are having physical or mental problems. The president was just being a good father!
Yes, compassion is an admirable virtue but an able leader, when dealing with other leaders or state matters, must be able to balance the compassion from his heart with logic from his head. I believe Pres Biden has that balance. I believe you do as well.
When I hear the attacks on President Biden I think about the great Jimmy Carter. The republican machine smeared him too and he turned out to be not just a great president but a great human in the decades before and after. I think there's a lesson there: It isn't the office that defines the president, it's what he (someday she) brings to it that defines the presidency.
For me character matters above all when it comes to the friends I have and the leaders i choose. It's shameful that so many "Republicans" have turned their backs on the basic American values that once held us together. Someday soon, Trump will be gone, but their shame will be with them forever.
Compassion is the engine of the heart-to-conversation. It allows us to forget our differences and recognise the pain of the other. From this, you can give an authentic response and feel a sense of belonging to the human community.
Totally agree. Compassion at any level is about listening to what’s behind the words. A good leader tries to hear the needs of their constituents even when they’re expressed angrily. The needs of their colleagues, even when they disagree. And the needs of their enemies, even when they’re violent.
Humanity needs compassion because we are all flawed. Americans are foolish to expect perfection of their leaders. Those who claim to be perfect tell the most transparent lie possible. Presidential pardons grant leave of just sentences out of compassion in special circumstances when administered wisely. Abuse of pardon power was one more proof of inhumanity and immorality in DJT. In this feature, as in others, the choice is clear between a kind person and a cruel one.
In a perfect world, compassion and empathy would not only be desirable in politicians, but a prerequisite for holding office. Any learned psychologist could surely devise an appropriate test.
Sadly, we don't live in that world, and the majority of the current leadership, certainly in the GOP, proves itself to be morally bankrupt and devoid of one iota of empathy for their constituents. At the federal level, the GOP House introduces not a single bill to benefit Americans; instead, they blindly follow Trump's directives to exact his revenge and retribution. At the state level, GOP lawmakers blatantly ignore their constituents' wishes. Over and over, polls show the majority of voters are against abortion bans, yet Republicans continue to introduce increasingly restrictive bans. New Hampshire just introduced a bill for no abortions after 15 days. Days!
Last week the Senate introduced a bill to ban assault weapons and to require background checks, something most voters want. Republicans quashed the bill, the same week the United States reached a grim record for the most mass shootings since 2006. Did we feel any empathy or compassion from the GOP? No; only empty platitudes offering 'thoughts and prayers'—let's be clear, for blood on the GOP's own NRA-beholden gun-toting hands.
For these reasons among many it is essential we have a leader such as Joe Biden who has the empathy to feel, truly feel, what his constituents are going through. He understands pain, loss, and struggle and has the compassion to care about that pain in others. Is this as important as the ability to govern? It is part of that ability, and what makes Biden a more effective leader. I also submit that there is no one in U.S. politics that better understands U.S. policy, bipartisanship, economics, Constitutional integrity, and geopolitics.
If we are to maintain our grand experiment of democracy in the United States, it is a moral imperative that we elect leaders with compassion and empathy. This is still a beautiful nation with much for which to hope, but we must work together to elect those who can lead us into realizing that future.
I'll never understand the vitriol and LGBrandon from the extreme right wing of the GOP and some evangelicals. I feel this man's unconditional Christ like love for his family and country. This writing struck me in the feels when his son walked out of an intervention and his father ran after hom and just held him.
Julie, when I look at Biden I am looking at a truly rare self-actualized individual. Life and loss has honed and polished this man into one of the best Presidents in the history of our country....
Today in the Washington Post, Ruth Marcus discusses the tragic case of Kate Cox, the young woman in Texas who is pregnant with a fetus that has Trisomy 18, a condition that is almost always fatal and that for Ms. Cox, threatens her health and even her life. Texas Attorney General Ken Paxton is described as someone who deserves "condemnation for his unnecessary, inexplicable cruelty" due to his actions countering the judge who granted Ms. Cox permission to get an abortion and threatening any hospital that allows the procedure while taking the issue to the Texas Supreme Court.
So well written Steven...huge kudos to you. We are all so fortunate to live in a time under this administration that is led by an empath. I will grant you that POTUS is not perfect but what an accomplished, driven person to take our divided country to places that we have only dreamed of. And to have a Leader with such a predominant empathy and understanding. We are so lucky. Now to just hope that POTUS and his staff and re-election group can rally enough momentum and support to allow President Biden to lead us for four more years. The country needs him; we all do.
In a tremendous coincidence, I was listening to an episode of Preet Bharara's podcast earlier today and he had a conversation with Jonathan Karl about his new book. At one point Karl quoted a former high level Trump official who had written himself a computer note characterizing Trump, which was later shared it with the author:
“He lacks any shred of human decency, humility or caring. He is morally bankrupt, breathtakingly dishonest, lethally incompetent, and stunningly ignorant of virtually anything related to governing, history, geography, human events or world affairs. He is a traitor and a malignancy in our nation and represents a clear and present danger to our democracy and the rule of law.”
And that's what people *inside* his administration were thinking. The people closest to him, presumably "on his team" who you would think he'd have even the tiniest human motivation to treat with decency.
It seems to me that compassion for others is a necessary character of fully functioning humans and is necessary for society to flourish. It seems today Politicians who lie, name call, bear fault witness and show no basic decency are ubiquitous. I believe we should shun and avoid (and never vote for)such persons.
Perhaps compassion is seen by some as a weakness- particularly in authoritarian nations. However the great American presidents: Washington, Lincoln, Roosevelt and others cared, showed magnanimity and were successful because their actions and policies brought citizens together improving the public welfare and nation.
This post, Steven, affected me because my family, like millions of others, knows what having a family member with an addiction is like. It's maddening and heartbreaking all at the same time. President Biden loves his son unconditionally. That is the ultimate act of compassion. He can still touch him, tell him he loves him every day, and be there for him. My family member was found dead a day before his 36th birthday, a newlywed and father of 2 young children who will now grow up without their dad. He struggled with addiction most of his life and tried so hard, but...no guarantees in life. I believe that Pres. Biden is a caring and compassionate man ultimately trying to do everything he can to better our lives and do his best for the world.
Love and compassion are two of the most important qualities that the president must have. We saw the same thing with JFK, with Obama, and now with President Biden, whose transcend just his immediate family to the rest of the country and the world. He’s experienced deep loss and pain and it makes him easily relate to those who are suffering the same.
Beautiful piece and a crucial query, Steven. I believe empathy (compassion) is a crucial requirement for effective leadership. Without empathy, the would-be leader is untethered from any sort of self-control. He has no “heart” and no “soul.” His decisions are invariably wrong. He has no ability to inspire others. And he is useless in any sort of crisis. He’s simply an ego. That’s why he’s diagnosed as a malignant narcissist.
I really love this post. When so many on Substack scream Biden needs to show strength, this is the first I’ve read on showing compassion. We are all forgivable humans and the capacity to attach to others with compassion is our only hope. That is not my opinion that is science. Relationship will always be the answer. Please America wake up and see that a mentally ill former guy has the capacity to attach to no one. He will not see you. Compassion is utterly alien to him. This is a life or death choice. I’m voting for the compassionate guy.
This discussion hasn't been far from my mind in the 24 hours since Steven posted it. From my view point, our country and every one of us, is approaching a crossroads. Will the direction we choose be decided by anger, fear, and hate? Or from a place of acceptance and compassion towards each other. The time for choosing our future direction is quickly approaching. I'm choosing compassion.
Papa died in 1964. He was 54. I was 15. In the few years that I had him, although he was sick most of that time, he provided me and my sister with lessons in love and compassion. I miss him. Of course, I would support a politician who exhibited those qualities; but, of course, that politician needs to have other qualities, like truth telling, empathy, humility and the like. Kind of like Mr. Biden.
Thank you, sir. This is a beautifully written piece about a true American hero. President Biden shows, on a daily basis, what a real leader looks like. He deserves our respect for all he’s been through and continues to do for all of us, in the face of all his personal tragedies. Anyone who doesn’t see that is blind to the truth and is just a hater...and we all know what haters do....
Compassion, empathy & sympathy are critically important for elected officials! How else can they best comprehend what we’re going through? The old “walk a mile in my shoes” philosophy! Trump has neither of these characteristics!
Steve, I write as the Founder of Operation Savannah, a 501c3 that provides recovery support to veterans (families) who battle C-PTSD, and its manifestations, one of which is addiction. We can be found at : https://OperationSavannah.org : if anyone wants to check our credentials. I have C-PTSD from my military service in 1975. Trump dodged the draft, which was more his dad than him, looking at the facts. He has a clear form of dissociative disorder, which manifests in aloofness, and an inability to relate to others. The world to him as how he sees it! On the other side, Biden is surely compassionate, but with that level of compassion comes denial and an inability to objectively evaluate the facts. In reality both are equally dangerous error! In one case the inability to hear advice to soften the position, and in the other the ability to hear the advice to harden their position. If I had to choose which side, it would be to side with compassion, for that person is MORE likely to have sound advisors who will work with them force their voice into the argument. We see this in effect with Biden, who is listening to his advisors on Israel. The UN vetoed the motion for a cease fire. We saw this in effect with Trump. He only listened to his advisors who said what he wanted to hear. On 4th March we will see the courts start their process to determine exactly how that went down.
Yeah, I try to look for an explanation when it comes to policy. Sometimes I wish I was 40 years younger and working/living in Washington DC. Love, love the energy there and there is so much to learn! Happy holidays,
Compassion is critical in our leaders - and in all of us - if we are to live successfully in society. More, it’s an indicator of high intelligence, because it’s transcends judgment. President Biden demonstrates this daily.
Clearly and totally agree. Biden is, above all else, a very decent man. However, a lot of time, he talks policy. Of course, appropriate. But my question - just that -- do you think Biden (the very polished DC deal maker) connects with people when he gives addresses to the nation? His state of the union talk was masterful display of dealing with errant politics. And maybe the comparison isn't fair. But Clinton, and Reagan, for all their faults, seemed to connect with average people when they gave national addresses. Obama of course did. Is Biden maybe too much of a techno-crat? DC insider? Just asking since I think he should be more popular, notwithstanding the daily onslaught of insults about his age, physical capacity, and mental acuity.
I’ll preface this by saying first that he is by inclination a politician imo. Inclined to be, intended to be, was. He’s grown though more into someone with a deeper perception of what the role of a leader in government can be and has moved toward it - that being someone who has a capacity for grasping nuances and acting on them to raise as many up as he can through policy. He needn’t be as charismatic as Obama (few are capable I think) or even Clinton, who like it or not had the focus and the charm to hold an audience. I never could stand the aw shucks bullshit of Reagan but I get what you mean.
Biden has grown as a human being and into some serious stature as a leader. Saying I find him someone who looks at situations and sees down into the human beings affected I don’t think is bring disingenuous. I’m not blinded by idolatry of anyone. He sees soldiers, for instance, through the lens of a loss so deep he see them as to be treasured as children of the nation. He sees families and attempted to continue supporting them through child credits. He see the outsiders and knows who they are because his son was so nearly lost to him by addiction.
But he’s also charged with keeping our national interests in mind in decision making. Not because he is depraved but he sees through a wider lens. His/our choice to support Israel and Ukraine despite fallout on civilians in Gaza, for instance, must be predicated on support of what is our literal base of operations in the region, Israel, the stated goal of Hamas to continue their attempts to eliminate our friends and allies, Israel (as opposed to Netanyahu).
As I see it this way he’s our only hope right now. Maybe someday we will be intelligent enough to support someone like Buttigieg, but that’s going to take a while. I think if Biden interacts within the small town in red states he can transcend the issues of age.
So eloquent Patris. And so well-said. As he says, "don't compare me to the all-mighty. compare me to the alternative." . . . It's an impossible job. Strengths in some areas perceived as weaknesses in other areas . . . . Separately, I wish there would be some push back, on humanistic grounds, of the daily onslaught of personal / unjustified attacks. Respect for leaders -- when deserved -- should go with the office. Cruel, dehumanizing gratuitous, personal attacks, is a product of the mid-east (Hamas, Isis). Complete and utter lack of respect for human beings is a product of terrorist groups. But in America? By people whose lives are so fulfilled in so many ways? Why are these people so hard-wired to hate? Just once, maybe x-mas eve, it would be nice to hear people, surrounded by beauty, wealth, abundance, give thanks for those trying to make the world a better place.
Patris you’ve so eloquently stated what I think so many of us feel about this man we call our president you have just articulated it so well. Thank you.
Thank you Lisa.
Of the many comments in this thread, yours rings the most true. Joe Biden is, first and foremost, a human being with flaws like all of us. As a political leader, he has learned how to balance his humanity with the realities of our society. Unfortunately, there are those in our society that see empathy and compassion as weaknesses. But, without those human qualities, we would have destroyed ourselves long ago.
I could not have written anything better than this, Patris. You captured my feelings beautifully.
I think so many of us feel this way, Marlene. Thank you though
Thank you, Patris, for voicing what my heart feels so deeply. You seem able to hear my inmost thoughts and express them in a way that is profoundly true. Thank you, not only for myself, but for your unflagging belief in our President. You comfort me when I feel crushed by the negativity, and when I can't find the words to say Why I believe in Joe and his integrity so deeply. Your compassion is obviously matched by his own, else you wouldn't be able to see and describe it so very well. Thank you. <3
I am very touched, Lauri, I think I only voiced what so many of us feel.
Well said.
You can measure a man by the company he keeps. In this case Israel under Netanyahu. "...despite fallout on civilians in Gaza...", you tacitly approve of Biden's support of this genocide, the "fallout" of which is the entirely intentional slaughter of 10s of 1000s of innocent Palestinians.
We just sent thousands of tank rounds to the IDF. We intend to send them an additional $14.5B in military aid, as if they needed it to carry out Netanyahu's pogrom to destroy Gaza and its dehumanized people, including 7000+ children. all in the name of maintaining "our literal base of operations in the region".
It's all very moving I suppose, a father's compassion for his son. But let's be clear that Biden's good-guy compassion does not extend to the Palestinians. Apparently, their deaths are justified, even required, in our "national interest" – not a small part of which is perpetuating our vast production of military hardware for sale to the world. Gaza is a genocide and Biden is deeply complicit.
Israel has its conscience to deal with but also a duty to remove the gun from the hands of Hamas pointed at its innocent citizens.im not talking legitimate grievances against ultra orthodox outliers who are robbing Palestinians of their homes or the corrupt criminal I consider Netanyahu to be.
Will Hamas come out and either surrender or fight without hiding behind innocent human shields? Return hostages whose only sin is being innocent human targets of bullets and tape?
We are providing Israel’s defense forces with materials to not only fight for its survival against Hamas - they are ready to stand against Russian inspired forces from half a dozen surrounding countries threatening them. This is a policy decision supplying a steadfast ally.
Do I abhor the death of children? Absolutely.
What ever else may be true, Israel is not fighting against Hamas for its "survival". Hamas has no chance against the overwhelming power of Israeli planes, bombs, missiles, tanks, drones, artillery & navy. No, it's using its power to finally rid itself of the people it has colonized and brutalized for 50 years. This no longer a defensive war, it is deadly collective punishment without mercy of Palestinian "vermin", "two-legged animals".
I’ll defer further opinion except to say Israel didn’t go to Palestine (they are ethnically the same people btw) to throw anyone out but to seek refuge.
No. It’s because Joe has this huge psychotic gorilla always 10 feet away that takes all the attention. Biden behaves in a remarkably honorable and effective way. He is getting things done. He WOULD be noticed and noticed well if not for the psychotic gorilla.
Hi Susan, "psychotic gorilla" gets all the attention -our Joe just get things done!
Unfortunately, Trump learned at a very early age at the squeaky wheel gets the grease--since he wanted all the grease, he's determined to be the squeakiest wheel of all! 🙄
I believe he does break free of being a “techno-crat” many times. Every time there is a national tragedy, a mass shooting or devastating fire, he goes and meets with the people of the community. He meets with the families in private. When did TFG ever do that? When he walked the picket line with the strikers, when loudly and forcefully spoke in support of Israel after October 7. He is also restrained in attacks on himself and son by deranged individuals.
No, this man connects with people, on a one on one human level.
Of course he connects, that’s why he has a 17% approval rating.
No. he does not, if you see it for his family that is his focus, not the public. You are in a media dream world, very sad.
Vicki, you could not be more wrong. If you are not seeing Biden's compassion, you are not paying attention. If your comment was directed at Patris' comment about his intelligence, you are also not paying attention. He has directed the most significant administration, of either party, in decades.
I have been paying attention to him for decades. Bewildered by your comments but I don't have time to change your mind, nor do I want to. He has done nothing but further us toward oblivion as a strong and majestic nation. A leader of the free world...going going g.......
How exactly is compassion for a troubled child (apart from any other sense of compassion) sending us to oblivion? What exactly has the "focus" on his family done to affect the fate of the country? Is compassion in such limited supply that having it for a child takes up all available energy to do one's job?
You DO have to "list the ways" if you want anyone to pay any attention at all to your opinion.
Susan, excellent reply to Vicky, but she won't get it. Don't feed the troll...
I know she won't get it. Anyone who feels horror at white male persecution in this country will never get it. But I do try to instill a sliver of doubt in trolls before blocking them. If they DO respond as I ask, I find their warped reasoning fascinating. But they rarely do. Just continue mindless bloviation.
What or who is your alternative then?
Vicki you are on the wrong Substack. Respectfully, it is shocking you can’t acknowledge that Joe demonstrates compassion publicly almost daily for Ukrainians (which is my heritage), the poor and disadvantaged (from which I emerged), women and minorities who are discriminated against hourly and daily, the undereducated, rural folks who need better infrastructure, and on and on! The contrast with his opponent is indisputable.
That is your opinion only as mine is. I am shocked you could even think much good about this administration which has us well on the way to oblivion. The discrimination saga is now aimed at White men (who by the way, have pretty much built this country with the constitution,etc.,) and schools are everywhere and generally close or reachable by bus. Get up, get dressed, show up and apply your brains. It's free. The opponent had our country on it's way to being an independent, strong and viable nation unless you listen to corporate run media (newspapers, magazines, TV, radio, etc.) who no longer believe in equal and actual news, not opinions and spew hate and many many things taken out of context. I thought Obama was playing a joke on us when he appointed biden for his VP as his rep in DC is less than stellar. Bleeding heart liberals have bought this garbage when it is plain to see that we are in dire straits. I don't have to list the ways, they are apparent. Normal people are afraid for their lives and don't go out at night, to theatres or to events for fear of the criminal element running wild. (Macy's stabbing in Philadelphia). But enough...you are not paying attention to reality. Good luck.
No point in responding!Stay safe Vicki
Beautiful response Ira. No point feeding the troll any further....
Your hateful ignorance and poor manners are here for all to see. Especially men like you who put down women. "When people show you who they are"...thank you Maya.
Thanks
"Vicki" might be a "Victor" -white male troll -possibly Russian.
You people are sad and these posts show that...wow. I guess you saw the movie, Victor Victoria, lol.
“Bleeding heart liberals”?? They have actually brought us most if not all the advances in medical research, engineering and technology. You live in a world here (despite your prejudice), of human beings devoted to the constitution and the rule of law. Flawed but at least resisting being dipped into narrow paths of bigotry and resentment at any thought not devoted to the ascendancy of one particular race or religion. I fear for those who appear blind to the greatness of this country of ours - which I say as a descendant of immigrants. You fear shadows.
Responses like the above are not based on fact. Amazing, people write this fiction for people to read. Intelligent people go to work and their children attend school. People who are unhappy with their own life need to get help and let the rest of us enjoy our lives.
Not based on fact … That is why there are no facts to support the opinions to go with the insults, adjectives and negativity.
And you did a good job with same...go girl.
Oh! What you're rabbiting on about, Vicki, is that White Dude don't get ENOUGH consideration? And that we need MORE bigotry, not less, because all your "negative" examples are about minorities, I can't help but notice....
I'd say 600 years at the top of the Western Heap, and 300 years at the top of the Global Heap, is enough "consideration" for anybody—and that maybe now, it's time to learn if Straight White Males ever learned how to share.
I doubt it will change YOUR mind because you're already locked into your White Supremacist Mindset, but for everybody else? Here's a piece popular SF author/social critic John Scalzi wrote years ago on his "Whatever" Blog about Straight White Men in videogame terms:
https://whatever.scalzi.com/2012/05/15/straight-white-male-the-lowest-difficulty-setting-there-is/
White Supremacist, lol, keep watching CNN...you make me laugh and sigh at the same time. White Males did what to you? Let us see your photo so we can judge...isn't that just all silliness? There is no bigotry in facts, get out your Civics books and read American History. Oh, right, they don't teach that anymore because they are more worried about your pronoun and gender ID. Oh, dear.
Well, you're proving that there is bigotry in how your choose to INTERPRET those facts!
So you're all pissed off about Transpersons? THAT is your big deal?
Are you J.K. Rowling's sock puppet, by any chance...?
Just an important interjection, Vicki. Black men built this country & economy after we slaughtered the native people. Just a jolt of reality.
Wow, you are a wild one aren't you? Talk about exaggeration. They all helped and native people are doing just fine with casinos and just like everyone in the nation; some people are poor and some are rich and most or many are in between. Get a grip.
Go crack a book🙄
I disagree with you emphatically.
Wow. But sure. I think Russian soldiers could be rescued and aimed back at their tormentor, Putin.
Wish I could. Still can’t imagine this isn’t a strategic goal at some point if not already. Watching Ukraine fight for their lives with such ferocity is incredible, isn’t it.
Unlikely, since Russia keeps a group at the rear to kill deserters.
Compassion, empathy, love and respect are all important qualities for each of us and especially for the leader of our Nation. President Biden has them all.
It's so important in anyone, anywhere. The news about the latest affront by whomever on Hunter Biden knocked the pegs out from under me. I'm still enraged, it's as if they know that what they are doing will hurt Joe Biden more than anything else could. I see no humanity in their action only petty violence against it. It was the last straw for me. I've tried desperately to say "oh well this to will pass" but I'm so done with them. There is no compassion in the people who run the Republican Party or in the person who's decision it was to take this road, none. I have voted in every election since I was 21, that 58 years, but I would not vote for a Republican if it were my only choice, not ever.
Yes Linda. They are weaponizing the DOJ and accusing Dems of doing it. Projection and "but so are you" distracting....
I have never voted Republican, and certainly never will at this point. The party has become one of hatred and fear.
The Biden Administration has tried - and succeeded - at doing things that benefit our nation. A Republican Party Administration, under Trump specifically, will do everything it can to hurt the majority of our citizenry.
It is hugely important for all politicians, from the School Board up to the Presidency. These people are elected to whatever office to serve the people in whatever level district they represent. How can they serve people if they don't care about them?
Hi Dawn! I completely agree with you. But I have a question I hope you can help me with...when the hardline 🤡 crew come in and ban books, ban history, ban lgbtq rights, shut down nat'l & state programs, they don't use the terms or phrases "we hate", it's always approached as we care for children & future generations. Although these lies are wrapped in a disintegrating bow of fake compassion, it's often the people who need the benefits the most who get hurt.
How do we convince them that the compassion they're "recieving" isn't real before they suffer even more at the hands of selfish individuals who only care for themselves?
Hi GL. You have a good handle on this part of the problem. If I may jump in on your question to Dawn?
It is next to impossible. The grateful receivers of republican "help" and lies usually have turned from 'receivers' into 'believers.' Too much effort required to turn them with eleven months to go.
We must instead reach Dems and Independents who haven't voted lately, with postcards and phone banking from voter lists, canvassing, and demonstrating. Many excellent organizations to choose from who will train and equip you. I suggest Field Team 6, Indivisible, Seniors Taking Action. Proven results from each of these organizations and so many others. Many groups are actively registering new voters, and many are working the rich ground of millions of our beautiful brand new 18+ year-olds who respond to climate, women's rights, and gun control issues.
Take your pick and dive in! We'll work around the believing receivers and full-on cult members and white nationalist 'Christians.' They are still the minority of voters, and fully vaccinated against truth.
Put on the blinders and don't be distracted or depressed by side issues like independent candidates, or clowns in congress, or the "supreme" court, or the media!
Run full steam ahead on the White House and congressional majorities we CAN achieve--if everyone GETS BUSY. NOW.
Thanks for letting me butt in. Good luck and Godspeed to us all....
Your suggestions are invaluable, Gus! I’m glad that you did “butt in”, because it’s important to get more blue voters working together at this critical time. The holidays may put that on hold for a few weeks, but encouraging people to do what they can from January until November can make the difference. It will be extraordinarily important because then it will only be 10 months until the November 5th election.
Hello There Gus! It's definitely easy to get in your own head & try to make sense of things, especially when you're the only one in the family who hasn't gone down the "right" trail. Thank you for sharing these options, there are a few in here I recognize!
I see all that banning stuff differently. The “banners” say they care about kids, future, etc, but 1) they only care about kids that are like theirs (and I wonder how it’s going to go when some of their kids come out gay, for instance), 2) and they want the future to look a lot like the past.
Have you noticed that not many of those “banners” are people of color, for instance? The banners have the goal of marginalizing and “other-ing” everyone who doesn’t fit their mold. I think the people who are gratefully receiving the banning are much like the banners - everyone else, not so much. They see that it is about exerting control and and trying to turn us backwards in time.
Fortunately - not gonna happen.
Yes, I have noticed that. Last weekend, the committee that runs the State of Texas GOP essentially said we're totally cool with White Supremacist's, they voted on it. The members on the committee were ok voting on it, but some didn't want it public...fools. The Texas Tribune wrote about it.
Thank You for helping me see where I was getting caught up in the 🤡 crew's compassion games.
Compassion is absolutely necessary - otherwise what we get is a sociopathic destroyer. And, contrary to the belief of many ignorant people, sociopaths are not better than compassionate people at managing the economy, foreign relations, border security, or anything else for that matter.
Compassion is not a weakness. It takes more strength to stand up for individuals that are having physical or mental problems. The president was just being a good father!
Yes, compassion is an admirable virtue but an able leader, when dealing with other leaders or state matters, must be able to balance the compassion from his heart with logic from his head. I believe Pres Biden has that balance. I believe you do as well.
When I hear the attacks on President Biden I think about the great Jimmy Carter. The republican machine smeared him too and he turned out to be not just a great president but a great human in the decades before and after. I think there's a lesson there: It isn't the office that defines the president, it's what he (someday she) brings to it that defines the presidency.
Good point!
Thank you
For me character matters above all when it comes to the friends I have and the leaders i choose. It's shameful that so many "Republicans" have turned their backs on the basic American values that once held us together. Someday soon, Trump will be gone, but their shame will be with them forever.
Compassion is the engine of the heart-to-conversation. It allows us to forget our differences and recognise the pain of the other. From this, you can give an authentic response and feel a sense of belonging to the human community.
Totally agree. Compassion at any level is about listening to what’s behind the words. A good leader tries to hear the needs of their constituents even when they’re expressed angrily. The needs of their colleagues, even when they disagree. And the needs of their enemies, even when they’re violent.
Humanity needs compassion because we are all flawed. Americans are foolish to expect perfection of their leaders. Those who claim to be perfect tell the most transparent lie possible. Presidential pardons grant leave of just sentences out of compassion in special circumstances when administered wisely. Abuse of pardon power was one more proof of inhumanity and immorality in DJT. In this feature, as in others, the choice is clear between a kind person and a cruel one.
He was selling pardons--even more depraved!
In a perfect world, compassion and empathy would not only be desirable in politicians, but a prerequisite for holding office. Any learned psychologist could surely devise an appropriate test.
Sadly, we don't live in that world, and the majority of the current leadership, certainly in the GOP, proves itself to be morally bankrupt and devoid of one iota of empathy for their constituents. At the federal level, the GOP House introduces not a single bill to benefit Americans; instead, they blindly follow Trump's directives to exact his revenge and retribution. At the state level, GOP lawmakers blatantly ignore their constituents' wishes. Over and over, polls show the majority of voters are against abortion bans, yet Republicans continue to introduce increasingly restrictive bans. New Hampshire just introduced a bill for no abortions after 15 days. Days!
Last week the Senate introduced a bill to ban assault weapons and to require background checks, something most voters want. Republicans quashed the bill, the same week the United States reached a grim record for the most mass shootings since 2006. Did we feel any empathy or compassion from the GOP? No; only empty platitudes offering 'thoughts and prayers'—let's be clear, for blood on the GOP's own NRA-beholden gun-toting hands.
For these reasons among many it is essential we have a leader such as Joe Biden who has the empathy to feel, truly feel, what his constituents are going through. He understands pain, loss, and struggle and has the compassion to care about that pain in others. Is this as important as the ability to govern? It is part of that ability, and what makes Biden a more effective leader. I also submit that there is no one in U.S. politics that better understands U.S. policy, bipartisanship, economics, Constitutional integrity, and geopolitics.
If we are to maintain our grand experiment of democracy in the United States, it is a moral imperative that we elect leaders with compassion and empathy. This is still a beautiful nation with much for which to hope, but we must work together to elect those who can lead us into realizing that future.
Silvija, you just wrote all we need to know in one single comment!!
Everything else is just details. Thank you!
Now, we need to be your voice to as many people as we can, in any way that we are able....
Thank you so much, Gus. Your words are very much appreciated.
I'll never understand the vitriol and LGBrandon from the extreme right wing of the GOP and some evangelicals. I feel this man's unconditional Christ like love for his family and country. This writing struck me in the feels when his son walked out of an intervention and his father ran after hom and just held him.
Julie, when I look at Biden I am looking at a truly rare self-actualized individual. Life and loss has honed and polished this man into one of the best Presidents in the history of our country....
We don't need beancounters running our country, we need fully-realized people who stand by those they love, through thick and thin.
Today in the Washington Post, Ruth Marcus discusses the tragic case of Kate Cox, the young woman in Texas who is pregnant with a fetus that has Trisomy 18, a condition that is almost always fatal and that for Ms. Cox, threatens her health and even her life. Texas Attorney General Ken Paxton is described as someone who deserves "condemnation for his unnecessary, inexplicable cruelty" due to his actions countering the judge who granted Ms. Cox permission to get an abortion and threatening any hospital that allows the procedure while taking the issue to the Texas Supreme Court.
https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2023/12/08/texas-abortion-heartbeat-law-kate-cox-ken-paxton/
Apparently in Texas compassion is a weakness and must be extinguished from politicians. Who cares how much its citizens suffer?
It’s that old “macho cowboy” image that comes to mind. Paxton is a liar and cheat. No telling how many women he has gotten abortions for.
So well written Steven...huge kudos to you. We are all so fortunate to live in a time under this administration that is led by an empath. I will grant you that POTUS is not perfect but what an accomplished, driven person to take our divided country to places that we have only dreamed of. And to have a Leader with such a predominant empathy and understanding. We are so lucky. Now to just hope that POTUS and his staff and re-election group can rally enough momentum and support to allow President Biden to lead us for four more years. The country needs him; we all do.
Ralph, and he needs US. We are the key to his momentum....
You are correct! We are in this together and we must work together!
Compassion is a top priority for any leader. Without compassion there is no true leadership qualification.
In a tremendous coincidence, I was listening to an episode of Preet Bharara's podcast earlier today and he had a conversation with Jonathan Karl about his new book. At one point Karl quoted a former high level Trump official who had written himself a computer note characterizing Trump, which was later shared it with the author:
“He lacks any shred of human decency, humility or caring. He is morally bankrupt, breathtakingly dishonest, lethally incompetent, and stunningly ignorant of virtually anything related to governing, history, geography, human events or world affairs. He is a traitor and a malignancy in our nation and represents a clear and present danger to our democracy and the rule of law.”
And that's what people *inside* his administration were thinking. The people closest to him, presumably "on his team" who you would think he'd have even the tiniest human motivation to treat with decency.
I think compassion and empathy are important in any public service. Sadly, 15%-20% of the population thinks it is a weakness.
It seems to me that compassion for others is a necessary character of fully functioning humans and is necessary for society to flourish. It seems today Politicians who lie, name call, bear fault witness and show no basic decency are ubiquitous. I believe we should shun and avoid (and never vote for)such persons.
Perhaps compassion is seen by some as a weakness- particularly in authoritarian nations. However the great American presidents: Washington, Lincoln, Roosevelt and others cared, showed magnanimity and were successful because their actions and policies brought citizens together improving the public welfare and nation.
This post, Steven, affected me because my family, like millions of others, knows what having a family member with an addiction is like. It's maddening and heartbreaking all at the same time. President Biden loves his son unconditionally. That is the ultimate act of compassion. He can still touch him, tell him he loves him every day, and be there for him. My family member was found dead a day before his 36th birthday, a newlywed and father of 2 young children who will now grow up without their dad. He struggled with addiction most of his life and tried so hard, but...no guarantees in life. I believe that Pres. Biden is a caring and compassionate man ultimately trying to do everything he can to better our lives and do his best for the world.
Love and compassion are two of the most important qualities that the president must have. We saw the same thing with JFK, with Obama, and now with President Biden, whose transcend just his immediate family to the rest of the country and the world. He’s experienced deep loss and pain and it makes him easily relate to those who are suffering the same.
Beautiful piece and a crucial query, Steven. I believe empathy (compassion) is a crucial requirement for effective leadership. Without empathy, the would-be leader is untethered from any sort of self-control. He has no “heart” and no “soul.” His decisions are invariably wrong. He has no ability to inspire others. And he is useless in any sort of crisis. He’s simply an ego. That’s why he’s diagnosed as a malignant narcissist.
Thank you, John. Could not agree more...as you might suspect.
I really love this post. When so many on Substack scream Biden needs to show strength, this is the first I’ve read on showing compassion. We are all forgivable humans and the capacity to attach to others with compassion is our only hope. That is not my opinion that is science. Relationship will always be the answer. Please America wake up and see that a mentally ill former guy has the capacity to attach to no one. He will not see you. Compassion is utterly alien to him. This is a life or death choice. I’m voting for the compassionate guy.
This discussion hasn't been far from my mind in the 24 hours since Steven posted it. From my view point, our country and every one of us, is approaching a crossroads. Will the direction we choose be decided by anger, fear, and hate? Or from a place of acceptance and compassion towards each other. The time for choosing our future direction is quickly approaching. I'm choosing compassion.
Papa died in 1964. He was 54. I was 15. In the few years that I had him, although he was sick most of that time, he provided me and my sister with lessons in love and compassion. I miss him. Of course, I would support a politician who exhibited those qualities; but, of course, that politician needs to have other qualities, like truth telling, empathy, humility and the like. Kind of like Mr. Biden.
Thank you, sir. This is a beautifully written piece about a true American hero. President Biden shows, on a daily basis, what a real leader looks like. He deserves our respect for all he’s been through and continues to do for all of us, in the face of all his personal tragedies. Anyone who doesn’t see that is blind to the truth and is just a hater...and we all know what haters do....
Steven ..proud to 100%support BIDEN
Believe without Biden we’d have already
Seen our Democracy destroyed and pray Americans VOTE BLUE ..VOTE BIDEN
History will credit Biden as one of top
Presidents we’ve ever had … thanks for
all you do to help us all blessings,Marsha
Compassion, empathy & sympathy are critically important for elected officials! How else can they best comprehend what we’re going through? The old “walk a mile in my shoes” philosophy! Trump has neither of these characteristics!
Steve, I write as the Founder of Operation Savannah, a 501c3 that provides recovery support to veterans (families) who battle C-PTSD, and its manifestations, one of which is addiction. We can be found at : https://OperationSavannah.org : if anyone wants to check our credentials. I have C-PTSD from my military service in 1975. Trump dodged the draft, which was more his dad than him, looking at the facts. He has a clear form of dissociative disorder, which manifests in aloofness, and an inability to relate to others. The world to him as how he sees it! On the other side, Biden is surely compassionate, but with that level of compassion comes denial and an inability to objectively evaluate the facts. In reality both are equally dangerous error! In one case the inability to hear advice to soften the position, and in the other the ability to hear the advice to harden their position. If I had to choose which side, it would be to side with compassion, for that person is MORE likely to have sound advisors who will work with them force their voice into the argument. We see this in effect with Biden, who is listening to his advisors on Israel. The UN vetoed the motion for a cease fire. We saw this in effect with Trump. He only listened to his advisors who said what he wanted to hear. On 4th March we will see the courts start their process to determine exactly how that went down.
America vetoed the UN resolution because there was no language of condemning Hamas. A cease fire must come with a plan for Palestinians and Israelis.
Thanks, appreciate the clarification.
Yeah, I try to look for an explanation when it comes to policy. Sometimes I wish I was 40 years younger and working/living in Washington DC. Love, love the energy there and there is so much to learn! Happy holidays,